Do you know what could be killing your relationship? HINT: It’s in your pocket or in your hand right now.

Yes, you guessed it. Your Smart phone could be killing your relationship. The smart phone is a wonderful tool but also can kill the romance in your relationship. Paradise Beach Weddings Inc. wants you to have a great Gulf Shores beach wedding but we also want you to have a great marriage! We’ve all seen it. The person that is constantly checking their phone. It’s fine to do that some time but not when you are with company and especially the company of your spouse! Not only is it killing romance but also tearing families apart. All you have to do is go out to eat at any restaurant these days and look around at the families that are out to dinner. They are more than likely looking at their phone. Kids included! We don’t know how to talk to each other anymore. My wife and I see it all the time when we are with couple friends. Here is some research that might make you feel differently about reaching for your phone the next time you are with your sweetheart. 

A team of researchers thought that smartphones might be making relationships worse, so they wrangled 170 college kids who were in committed relationships to see what role their phones were playing.

In the study, published in the journal Psychology of Popular Media Culture, the college lovebirds were asked to report on their own smartphone use: how dependent they felt on their device, and how much it would bother them to go without it for a day. They then answered similar questions about their own partner’s smartphone dependency.

It didn’t matter much how much a person used their device, but how much a person needed their device did. People who were more dependent on their smartphones reported being less certain about their partnerships. People who felt that their partners were overly dependent on their devices said they were less satisfied in their relationship.

In other words, people get jealous of their partner’s smartphone. “I’m more likely to think my relationship is doomed the more I believe my partner needs that thing,” explains Matthew Lapierre, a ssistant professor in the department of communication at the University of Arizona, who authored the study with his former undergraduate student Meleah Lewis . “It’s not use; it’s the psychological relationship to that device.”

If you are married, put your phone away at the dinner table. That is another thing that people don’t feel comfortable doing anymore. Share a meal together and look face to face! Real intimacy begins when you can put your phone down! Your spouse should not have to get jealous of your phone addiction! In a world that we are always getting calls, sending reviewing texts, getting on social media, and etc., we are losing touch with the ones we love. Social Media was supposed to bring us closer together and it has made us farther apart than ever. Try baby steps at first. Just try going out on a date and leaving the phone in the car. Try eating a meal with your phone out of reach. Go on vacation and leave your phone behind. Unplug your life! All of your relationships will improve.